I try to become more assertive myself, but I'm generally just too nice to really get my way.
PS Yep, still there. http://www.tikiroom.com/tikicentral/bb/viewtopic.php?topic=38104&forum=2
While I am not an aggressive person I try to be assertive, and am able to convey my thoughts, even in anger, in a constructive way. This is very helpful, and people are respectful towards me.